It can be challenging to maintain friendships when you don’t like your friend’s spouse. However, because my friends are important to me, I’ve tried to approach this situation with empathy and sensitivity, as it can be hurtful to my friend if they feel like they have to choose between their spouse and their friendship with me.
One way I handle this situation is to focus on my relationship with my friend, rather than their spouse. Try to plan activities that don’t involve their spouse or I find common interests that we can enjoy together without their partner being present. This has helped to preserve the friendship while also respecting the boundaries of my friend’s relationship.
Here is a little advice I received once: if you do need to spend time with your friend’s spouse, try to approach the situation with an open mind and a positive attitude. They knew what they were marrying when they went through with it. It’s the life they chose for themselves. Look for common ground or areas of shared interest and try to engage in conversation in a friendly and respectful way.
It’s also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about how you’re feeling. Let them know that you value your friendship with them and that you want to maintain that connection, but that you find it difficult to be around their spouse. Be respectful and non-judgmental in your communication and try to listen to their perspective as well.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what is best for you and your mental and emotional well-being. If the situation is causing you too much stress or discomfort, it may be necessary to take a break from the friendship or distance yourself from the situation. However, with patience, empathy, and open communication, it’s often possible to maintain a friendship even if you don’t like your friend’s spouse. Sometimes you were there before the marriage and your friend will need you after it’s over, so be the friend you would like to have.
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