Here’s a flashback post from last year.
There is a man that I know, who honestly has been tryna get at me for many, many years. We just never clicked. I am in no way attracted to his personality, but we have made money together. 6 figure money a few times. So, every so often when I hear from him, I respond. Now, he’s been in my text thread heavily for the past month. He texted me yesterday and asked if I would call him. He had a branding opportunity for me. I didn’t listen to my gut and I called anyway because…Hell, it’s about money.
I called him all chipper, “Hey, what you got good?” I asked him.
“I have this cosmetic company in South Africa looking for a named talent to be the face of a new makeup line,” he says.
“Makeup really isn’t my thing, (I have sensitive skin.) but what’s the details?” I asked.
With hesitation in his voice, he says, “It contains a special component”.
My mind is racing. I’m thinking, oh anti-aging or something. Curious now I say, “What component does it contain?”
“Skin lightening agents,” he said non confident.
” WTF You just say?” I asked.
He had the nerve to repeat himself.
“WHY IN THE FUCK WOULD YOU THINK I WOULD BE OKAY SELLING SOMETHING TO LIGHTEN THE SKIN OF BLACK WOMEN?” I screamed. (I wanted to make sure he heard me).
“Just hear me out… there is a lot of money on the table, and you don’t want to pass this opportunity up!” He tells me.
“I can’t believe your ass was dumb enough to even call me with this bullshit! What kinda self-hating mothafucka are you?” I screamed.
“Why do I have to be self-hating?” he asked.
“As a Black man, you thought it was a good idea to come at me with this? I asked him.
“These White boys are ready to spend big money. Calm down and remove your ego! They really feel this will be big,” he said to me.
“My ego has nothing to do with this; it has everything to do with my morals. I am a Black woman who loves herself…”
“Well, I have this cannabis deal…” he says.
“I don’t smoke and I’m on a kid show.” I cut him off quickly and screamed.
Long story short, I have followers who always say I shouldn’t curse and I don’t want the kids reading exactly what came out of my mouth after that, but I called him every damn self-hating coon I could think of. I was completely taken back why a deep chocolate Black man with a whole African name would think it was okay to even come at me with a proposition like this. They say you attract everything that comes to you.
Then, I got even more pissed because it’s a company owned by White people and they got a 53-year-old coon volunteering to go do their dirty work and for the love of money, he was okay with presenting this to me like it was no big deal… Our own are the ones who sell us out STILL IN HUMAN TRAFFICKING TODAY.
Then, I laughed, and I said to him, “You always asked me why I wouldn’t marry you. This right here is why,” I yelled.
He said, “I’ve only been chasing you for 15 years.”
(Can’t say exactly what I said after that, I’m pretty sure it would be considered bullying.)
For a woman to marry a man, she has to believe he will make choices in their best interest and you would sell me for a dollar. I could NEVER trust you to make any choice in my best interest. I hung up.
Sad thing is that someone else will bite. He will find another Black entertainer who will be all for it because they need the money and that’s what breaks my heart most.
All opportunities aren’t good opportunities. When someone shows you that they feel your morals can be easily switched by the almighty dollar: RUN!
I’VE NEVER BEEN PRESSED ON MONEY. I am the same with my pockets full as I am with them empty. Money has never waived my morals and I stay clear of those who worship paper over the best interests of anyone. So, DNA went in my phone where his name was. DO NOT ANSWER! I’m getting better at it, as the years go on. He shoulda stuck with doing real estate with me, period.
I Don’t Know Why I Still Allow People To Shock Me, but I’m still Pissed off! Sistas, don’t give any man the power to persuade you to do anything because money is involved. Value yourself and know everything that comes to you, aint for you! When you know your worth, you NEVER have to settle.
AFMS: Lets Talk About Everything, Sista to Sista 