TO STAY OR TO GO? “IF THINGS NEVER CHANGE, WOULD YOU BE HAPPY LIVING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THIS?”

As long as I’m talking, we are good. It’s when I get quiet… I’m done. I talk to try to change things. Once I realize my words aren’t heard or considered, I can’t change anything or make someone see the flaw or fault in the situation, it’s my turn to sit back and evaluate myself, my heart and my feelings. I will always choose Peace over Pride. I can’t worry about things or people I can’t change.

I ask myself a very serious question. “If things never change, will I be happy living the rest of my life like this?” If the answer is yes, I will talk again. If the answer is no, I learned my lesson and it’s time for me to move on. I have no problem letting go of things or people who don’t serve my future positively.

At 46, I see the signs and red flags🚩🚩🚩quickly. I no longer overstay and waste my time. I simply allow relationships to dissipate, regardless of nature. I can love you but never speak to you again… My Peace is worth it.

One thought on “TO STAY OR TO GO? “IF THINGS NEVER CHANGE, WOULD YOU BE HAPPY LIVING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THIS?”

  1. I was happy to find advice for my sista. It is relatable and makes me feel that other understand my daily struggle. I am in a relationship with someone however I believe it’s time to go. He’s a good guy and his heart seems to be genuine. However he’s struggling to remain stable financially and take care of his responsibilities. What I am not clear on is whether or not he ready for a relationship. We rarely see each other due to his schedule, he works a 12 hour job 6 days a week . He also lives in a neighboring state , about 40 miles. He stays with his sister so going to him is not comfortable. Part of me feels that if we can’t invest more time then it’s not the right time to be together. I partly feel that I would be abandoning him however at the same time I want to be fair to me. I feel that he’s being a bit selfish as well because he can’t give me much of his time. His focus is primarily on himself at this time. He can’t really afford to go out much either. I would take addl quality time over spending money and going out however that’s not an option. It’s been about 8 months and not much has changed. I just don’t want to get caught up in a familiar cycle. It’s been said that I give up to soon however I am not sure ……

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